Baby basics

Here's the basics of what you need for a new baby.

for the baby:

1. onsies

2. sleep and plays

3. crib and set of sheets / somewhere for the baby to sleep

4. diapers (1 package size nb and the rest size 1) and wipes

5. bottle (you'll get formula in the diaper bag from the hospital)

6. rocking chair (I recommend a recliner so you can sleep in it too if you have to)

7. light receiving blankets

8. burp cloths

9. place to change the baby (can just be towel on the floor)

10. car seat (can't leave the hospital without one)

11. heavier blanket (for traveling to and from car)

12. front pack / baby bjorn / sling so you can carry the baby and still get stuff done

13. nail clippers

14. swing or baby bouncer so you can set the baby down during the day

15. hat (will probably get one from the hospital)

for you:

1. (optional) breast pump in case the baby won't eat and you need some relief or so you have extra milk
2. maxipads
3. witch hazel pads
   
4. iboprophen (sp?)
5. fan / heater/ white noise generator so the baby isn't so loud when you are trying to sleep and someone else has him
   

that should cover you for a while

Review: Forge Athena 17" bicycle

My husband enjoys cycling, and I wanted to be able to ride with him sometimes. The bike I had was a garage sale find, but the frame was too big for me. I considered a bicycle from a bike store, but I had trouble paying $325+ for a bike that I might not end up riding that much.* Since I am a new rider, I wanted a step-through frame. I also wanted to be able to put my feet flat. I also wanted multiple speeds, so that I could pull my child trailer. I decided on the Forge Athena based on price and features.

What I like:

• aluminum frame
• 21 speed
• step-through frame
• quick release wheels and seat
• name brand components
  
• looks stylish (the paint is 2 toned which I didn't realize when I bought it)
  
• fits me well (I'm 5'8)
• upright riding position
• saddle is comfortable (so far, haven't taken it more than a few miles)
  
• very comfortable ride
• kickstand
  

What I don't like:

• can't put feet flat (that's ok, I just lower the seat) and as I get better this isn't a big deal
• isn't really anywhere to put a water bottle or basket due to shape of the frame and where the brakes sit. The seat post has a shock absorber, so that's out too. I'm going to look at it more closely and see if I can figure out a solution.
  
• set up was a pain. I'd advise to plan on spending an extra $50 to get a tune-up from a bike shop. Actually putting the bike together wasn't hard, but getting the bike ridable took longer than I expected. The wheels were out of true (my husband could play "yankee doodle" on the spokes.) The chain was rubbing on the derailleur cage. The brakes were not working correctly at all. One of the pedals was loose. After 2 trips to bike store (stupid derailleurs) and my husband tweaking things, it seems to be working perfectly now.
  
• doesn't fit across the back of my sienna, even with the front wheel off. I have to lay a seat down. (my husband's mountain bike and road bike fit there). It would probably fit if I took off the back wheel, but I don't want to go through trying to get the chain on and off.
  
• because of the step-through frame, the bike won't fit on our bike rack. I've ordered a bar to fix this, so we'll see how it goes.

My husband's comments:

• he rode it on one of his usual rides and averaged 13 mph (instead of usual 16-18), but the frame was small for him and he had a bad head wind.
• he likes way it rides
• not a speed bike

Would I recommend it? So far, yes. I've had a lot of problems and it's taken me a while to get to ride it, but most of that was initial set up. I'll update this after I've ridden it a little more.


*(Although looking at how much I spent on this bike, the bike store bike wouldn't have been that much more expensive. If you can get free shipping, it would be a better deal.)

ipod touch vs ipad vs laptop vs desktop, an analogy

I've been trying to decide whether I want an ipod touch. Some things about them started bothering me. It got me thinking about windows and doors. A window lets me look outside. I can see what is going on. With most windows, I can open it and let in some air or yell to a friend walking by, and in an emergency I can get out of my house. A door is to let me interact with the outside. It isn't usually as convenient as a window for looking outside.

Ipod Touches and Ipads are like windows. They let me take a look at what is going on on the internet, but they don't let me interact well with it. Text entry is more difficult than on a keyboard. Yes, I can yell out the window at my friend, but if I really want to talk to him or her, I have to open a door. But a lot of the time, I just want to look. I want to see what people have to say, not add my own content.

Netbooks are like french doors, I can see out, fairly well, but I can go outside as well. They aren't quite as convenient as windows.

Desktops are like doors. I can open the door and go outside, but I don't want to sit on my couch in front of an open door all day either. Desktops can't move and are less convenient for a quick glance of what is going on outside. But if I want to go for a walk, they're the way to go.

My silly analogy has allowed me to understand the limitations of an iphone or ipopd touch. They are windows, and I am fine with that.

How to make a stick horse

My daughter wanted a pink stick horse, so we made one. Here's what I did. I used this pattern and watched the video series here. I think it could easily be made in 3 hours. (It's hard for me to judge because I had plenty of "helpers") I used fleece, yarn, buttons, felt, ribbon, a dowel, matching thread, and some heavy duty thread.
Here's what to do in a nutshell

1. cut stick down to size. Cut grooves for attaching head and padding. Paint stick and let dry.
2. trace and cut head pattern out of fleece
3. wrap yarn into a mane. Cut the yarn, then lay on horse's head
4. sew head together, right sides together. Flip head right side out
   
5. draw ear pattern. cut out of fleece. hand sew ears to head.
6. attaching padding to dowel. (this is a little fabric circle with padding to soften the end of the dowel)
7. stuff head, leaving room for the dowel end.
8. sew on eyes.
9. attach head to dowel
10. sew on felt nostrils and ribbon bridle.
    

Every baby born in America should be a citizen

I've been hearing on the radio, hearing on the news, and reading in the newspaper about people and political candidates who don't want children of illegal immigrants born in the USA to automatically be citizens. I think it's a bad idea for some babies to be born citizens and some babies not to be. Let's consider a few scenarios:

1. Both parents are illegal aliens (or rather, both parents cannot prove citizenship) - then the child isn't a citizen or has to go through a process. Easy enough.
2. Both parents can prove citizenship. Child is automatically a citizen.
3. Mother is citizen, but husband is not. OK, what now, does the mother have to go through immigration to get her own child, born in the US, citizenship? What if the process takes too long,will her baby be deported, but to where?
4. Mother is citizen, but father is unknown. This is like #3, only even more complicated. Because if the father is a citizen, the child should be, but if he isn't, who knows.
   
5. Father is citizen, but mother is not. Even more fun, since courts seem to side with a child staying with his or her mother, so maybe citizenship status should be the same as the mother's. But that seems unfair, especially if for #3 and #4 the child has citizenship.
   
6. Mother and Father are unknown. This could happen in states with safe harbor laws (where babies can be left anonymously at hospitals.) So, does the baby have to go through immigration to be adopted?
7. What if the parents are legal aliens? Will green cards require that you accept your future child is not a citizen?
8. What about sperm / egg donors used for infertility? Usually parents have no idea who the donor is. Would the baby be a citizen if the birth mother is or only if the biological mother / father is?
   

The end result will be a very complicated set of laws which will probably end with a Supreme Court ruling and a new government bureaucracy.

[edited 7/19/10]
If the laws are the most lenient, that is every case except #1 is a citizen, then I would expect a large number of babies whose mothers suddenly have no idea who the father is.

If the law is closer to the UK's, then the mother's citizenship would be what counts. If the father refuses to sign the birth certificate, the child would not be a citizen if his/her mother wasn't. If the father was and signed, then the child would be a citizen. The problem is if someone signed the birth certificate as the father who wasn't really. Maybe the thought of having to pay child support would be enough to keep people honest.

If the laws are the strictest, that only #2 are citizens, I would expect a large out cry, but worse, a significant number of children who are not citizens of any country. America would still have to school them (because some school districts are forbidden to ask about immigration status). When they became adults, they would have no where legally to go. This is the same problem faced by children of illegal immigrants brought here illegally, but worse because they might not have another country to return to. (Especially if the mother is a native born us citizen, but the father is unknown.) These would end up being second class in the US, unable to legally hold a job. Even if there were a way for the babies to become citizens, it would probably involve a fee and many of the poorest could not afford it, or alternately, the taxpayer would foot the bill.

If not all children are born citizens of American, then who a baby's parents are is of utmost importance. If the government accepts a signed paper saying who the parents are, I suspect there would be a large number of people lying. The number of children being citizens wouldn't be significantly different than they are today. But if the law wants to be sure, it would require DNA testing to prove the baby is the child of the mother and father. To avoid profiling, every name that goes on the birth certificate will have to be tested. That will come at a cost, both economic and to our personal freedom. The poor couldn't afford the test, so either the taxpayers would pay for the test, or again, there would be a large number of children who live in the US, but are not citizens. I also wouldn't trust the government with a large database of DNA.

We need to take a good look at why people feel the laws should be changed. I am trying to be open minded (possibly failing :) ). I can understand not wanting to pay for children of illegal immigrants born in the US. I am not sure changing citizenship rules is the best way to address that issue. The cost of enforcing the change might be higher than just dealing with things how they are. The easiest, and best, solution is to leave things the way they are. Every baby born in America should be a citizen.

2010 utah state representative race

Val Peterson

Mike Thompson

I hadn't realized I had a state representative race too, this primary. Both of these seem like good men, so it will be hard to decide.

Book Review: The Bishop's Bride: The Honey Moon is Over

I enjoyed "The Bishop's Bride" and was excited that my sister had a copy of the sequel.

Summary: Andrew and Jeanette are happily married, but work and his calling as Bishop are interfering with their time together. Jeanette also feels like she needs to be everything Andrew's first wife was. Throw in a member of the mafia that wants to go straight, Andrew's son's broken engagement, and a dead body, things get pretty exciting, but of course everything ends happily.

Review: I enjoyed this book. It is a lot like the first one. I thought the whole "wait, my fiancee is actually my cousin" thing was a little annoying, but the book worked well once I was willing to suspend reality. There were some fun scenes in this one too. It makes a great Sunday read.

Would I buy it: yes
Would I pay full price: no

Chocolate cheese cake flan

My husband took me to cafe rio a few weeks ago and introduced me to the deliciousness that is chocolate cheesecake flan. It is wonderful, a chocolate cheesecake that is a little lighter than regular cheesecake topped with strawberries and whipped cream. I wanted more, but it's a little pricey, so I decided to make my own. Here's the link (http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Chocolate-Cheesecake-Flan/Detail.aspx) to the recipe I used. The recipe wasn't that hard other than the caramel. Also, the flan really does taste best with redi-whip on top.

Note: I couldn't get the caramel to come out right. It came out way too hard and lumpy. Next time I might leave it out. If anyone has suggestions on making caramel, I'd appreciate it.

review: Bumbo

So, awhile ago I broke down and bought a Bumbo. My baby was getting tired of her bouncer, but wasn't sitting up by herself yet. I like it. It is soft and rubbery. She likes sitting up in it. I'm not really sure how much longer she will be able to use it, since she is getting a little wiggly. I'm hopeful that by the time she can't use it anymore, she will be sitting up by herself. The main thing I saw that really impressed me is with in few days after she got it, she was able to sit up unaided for a few seconds. The chair had really improved her upper body strength.

My verdict: it's worth buying, as long as you realize it won't be useful for more than about 4 months. Ideally, you would borrow one from a friend and use it, then return it.

Clams

Me: what are you taking to show and tell?
Son(age 5): a clam shell
me: why do you think clams have shells?
Son: to protect them from creditors.

(This is what happens when you confuse documentaries with infomercials.)

Neighborhood Book Club books

Here's a list of what we're reading / have read:

Books for 2020:

A better way to teach kids about sex

Counting by 7s sloan

Olive kitterage

Girl wash your face hollace

Beneath a scarlet sky

Phoebe and her unicorn

The four tendencies gretchen

Essentialism

The poet x

The feather thief

Books 2019
Jan 31 - the burnout cure
Feb 28 - Eleanor oliphant is completely fine
Mar 28 - the boys in the boat
Apr 25 - A night divided
May 30 - Untangled - guiding teenage girls
June 27 - Warcross
Sep 26 - the rent collector
Oct 24 - Educated
Nov 21 - TBA

Books 2018

Jan - Me me me epidemic 

Feb - Lilac girls 

Mar- Rangers apprentice: ruins of Gorlan 

Apr- My lady Jane

May- Howls moving castle 

June - Murder on the orient express 

July- Ms bixby’s last day

Aug-The blue castle 

Sep-The crystal bridge- pulsipher 

Oct - a gentleman in Moscow 

Nov/dec - Book of Mormon challenge

2017:
January - a place called harmony
February - second season
March - a man called ove
April - Rosie project
May - Molokai
June - Ruby red
July - the 5 love languages
August - dad is fat
September - beauty and the clockwork beast
October - nothing to envy
November - Sue's dad book
Dec -

2016:
Jan - The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing - Kondo

Feb - All the light we cannot see - doerr 

Mar - The graveyard book - gaiman 

Apr - The night circus

May - Mary Martha and me 

June - Life from scratch 

July - Partials - wells

Sep - Jackaby - 

Oct - The chrysalids - Wyndham

Nov - The hiding place - tenbaum 

Dec - Christmas jars - wright

Jan -  Home to harmony - gulley 

2015

Jan - The Happiness Project (Ruben)

Feb - The throne of glass (Maas) 

March - Big stone gap (trigioni)

April - Ivanhoe (Scott)

May - Cinder (Meyer)

June - Never Trust a Shadow (Haltom)

July - Patriots (Appy)

August - The selection (cass)

September - Orphan Train (Kline)

October - Tunnels 

November - Increase in learning (bednar) 

Dec - In the dark street shineth (McCullough) 

2014

Jan - An Astronauts Guide to Life on Earth
Feb - Blackmoore
March  - Wonder
April - Princess of the Midnight ball
May - The Reluctant Blogger
June - The Emperor's Soul
August - Just Call me Ninja
September - The Agency
October - Glimpses into the Life of Majory Pay Hinkley
Nov - Lawn Boy
Dec - Biography of Santa Clause - L Frank Baum

Previous years:

2013 

Jan - Daughters in my Kingdom
Feb - Divergent
Mar - My Loving Vigil Keeping (Kelly)
April - Hitler's Youth (Bartelli)
May- Mrs. Drew Plays her Hand (Kelly)
June - Girl of Fire and Thorns
July - Edenbrook
August - Secret Journal of Brett Colton
Sep - Persuasion (Austen)
October - For Darkness Shows the Stars (Peterfreund)
November - The Scarlet Pimpernel
December - Hogfather (Pratchett)

2012
Jan - To the Rescue (Swinton)
Feb - Sorcery and Celia (Wrede / Stevermer)
Mar- Strong Poison (Dorthy Sayers)
April - The Card Turner
May - The help
June - the Three Musketeers (Dumas)
July - Unbroken (Laura Hillenbrand)
Sep- A Year Down yonder (Richard Peck)
Oct- Screwtape Letters (C.S. Lewis)

Nov - Scorpio Races
Dec- How Carrots Won the Trojan War




2011:
Jan - Much Ado about Nothing
Feb - The Giver
Mar - Latter Days, Coke Newell
April - The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society
May - White Mountain
June - The Woman in White (Wilkie Collins)
July- Fable Haven 5 (Mull)
Aug - Teen Idol (Meg Cabbot)
Sep - Animal, Vegetable, Miracle (Barbara Kingsolver)
Oct- Cold Mountain (Frazier)
Nov- Wednesday's Wars (Gary D. Schmitt)
Dec - A Season of Gifts (Richard Peck)



2010:

Jan - Master Your Metabolism by Jilian Michaels
Feb - Alcatraz versus the Evil Librarians by Brandon Sanderson
March - The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins
April - The 5000 Year Leap by W. Cleon Skousen
May - Far From the Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy
June - Twenty and Ten
July - My Life by Helen Keller
Aug - English Trifle or some other food mystery
Sept - Aenid
Oct - Return of the King , Tolkein
Nov - Number the Stars
Dec - Agent Bishop



2009:

January - Crocodile on the Sandbank, Elizabeth Peters
February - Tuesdays with Morrie
March - Tales of Beetle Bard, JK Rowling
April - Lion and the Lamb, Packard
May - Westing game
June - Melea's book
July - My Father's Dragon
August - tba (religious)
Sept - Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain
Oct - Love Letters of Joseph and Emma
Nov - Flipped by Wendelin Van Draanen
Dec - Skipping Christmas by John Grisham

Older:

John Adams
Princess Academy
To Kill a Mocking Bird

Carseats--again

After all the commotion a few years ago, the carseat law requiring children to be in booster seats until 8 years old passed in Utah. Now KSL reports HB 113 bill would allow children over the age of 5 to ride without a booster seat if going less than 4 miles and under 45 miles per hour. (It still requires seat belts.)

I think this bill is a great idea. My main concern with the original bill that passed was that it did not take into account realities of driving more than one or two children in a car. Right now, if one of my friends wanted me to take their child home from school, I couldn't because I don't have a booster seat and another one will not fit in my van. There is an extra seat, but with two boosters back there already, a third would not fit. This means that I break the law if I help. This bill would allow for quick local travel. I'd be able to help without the guilt of breaking the law.

One of the concerns raised was how do you tell a child today he has to be in a booster seat, but tomorrow he doesn't. You tell them. Kids are used to having to deal with things that are ok some days but not others. If your child doesn't handle it well, then always make them ride in a booster.

Another concern is that most accidents happen with in 5 miles of home. But I don't think that people will suddenly stop using booster seats. Most of the children will be in a booster and a few will be in seat belts. This won't be any different than 2 years ago. The law isn't allowing for children to be unrestrained. If they aren't in a booster they would be in a seatbelt.

I think it's a bad idea to pass a law that large numbers of people will break. This change will allow people to lend a hand without breaking a law. This bill would allow for the safety of the law, while balancing the realities of moving children around.

mug cake

http://www.recipezaar.com/Cake-in-a-Mug-13921
I only needed to microwave it for a little over a minute. I also mixed in powdered eggs so I didn't have to have an egg.

Review: Panasonic DMC-ZR1

I like my Panasonic DMC-FX01 that I've owned for several years, but it is missing one thing: the ability to zoom during movies. The Panasonic DMC-ZR1 does that, along with 8x zoom instead of 3x. It should be the perfect camera, but alas, it was not to be.

I set out to determine if the pictures it took were at least as good as the FX01. They seemed to be. But the video was its downfall. Outdoors the video was fine. Indoors with the lens in its widest setting it was fine. When I took video indoors at night (lights were on) with the ZR1, as soon as I began to zoom, the video got darker and darker. After 2 or 3x it was too dark to be usable. An email to Panasonic support confirmed there was no way to brighten the video. Since I frequently take movies of my kids indoors at night, this was unacceptable. Especially since I hoped to take movies at school functions which requires zoom; The fx01 was able to take movies at3x zoom just fine. so I wasn't gaining anything with the zr1.

I am very sad this wasn't the right camera for me. It is a good camera in so many ways: small size, zoom during movies, a shortcut menu of common settings. and excellent outdoor performance. If zoomed indoor video isn't something you need. consider this camera. otherwise the Panasonic DMC-ZS3 is probablyy your best bet.

Companies that make 18 inch dolls

I've been trying to find a list of companies that manufacture 18 dolls. I like the American Girl dolls, I just have trouble justifying the money, so I was wondering what other companies made similar dolls. I haven't been able to find a list online, so I started my own list.

18 inch dolls (in no particular order) :

1. American Girl
2. Our Generation
3. Corolle (17 inch)
   
4. Gotz Precious Day
5. Springfield
   
6. Best Friends Club
   
7. Madame Alexander
8. Today's Girl

The links above link to a sample doll, all blond and blue eyed like my daughter.

Pregnancy on tv

So I read this Slate article about a TLC show called "I didn't know I was Pregnant". I was searching for an online episode to watch and did find one. It actually wasn't that bad. Basic plot is woman rushes to emergency room to discover she doesn't have appendicitis, she is delivering a pretty much perfectly healthy baby.

The other thing I came across while searching for a free episode of the show was a discussion about the show. One of the commentator mentioned they thought the show should show bad outcomes because it might give people the idea that they don't need prenatal care. Now, I agree that pregnant women should get prenatal care, but I actually wonder how many "I didn't know I was pregnant" turn out badly. In my experience with 3 births, all my visits consisted of "baby's fine". I know that things can go terribly wrong. I am very grateful that all my kids have been healthy. However, the people on the show are delivering in a hospital, and in my mind delivery is the biggest risk during pregnancy. People have been having babies for a very long time without prenatal care, so I wonder if the risk factors are not as high as many people believe.

Mythbusters Birthday Party

My now five-year-old son loves Mythbusters and wanted a Mythbusters birthday party. He invited 3 of his friends to the party. We did 7 myths in 1 hour and 15 minutes (that was plenty of time). I didn't really explain the whys, the kids didn't seem very interested.

Here is what we did:

Myth: a toy car can out race a sports car.
What we did: raced toy cars against bigger toy cars. Little toy car was a party favor.

Myth: A pirate's eye patch was to help with seeing below deck
What we did: did an obstacle course in the garage, then wore an eye patch for part of the party and went through the obstacle course a second time.

Myth: You can't fold a piece of paper in half more than 8 times
What we did: folded pieces of paper in half. I then showed them (with a piece of newspaper) the trick about folding height-wise until it couldn't fold any more then folding in half lenght-wise. I got 9 folds out of it.

Myth: You can't pull apart 2 phone books with interleaved pages
What we did: Interleaved the pages of two novels (would have done phonebooks, but couldn't find 2 of the same size) and let the kids pull. They eventually succeeded, mostly because I was lazy in layering the pages. It went through 4 sets of kids and 1 set of adults before they managed it.

Myth: Quicksand will suck you under
What we did: mixed cornstarch and water and let the kids see that moving their hand slowly through it worked better than moving quickly

Myth: Diet Coke and mentos
What we did: Bought a six pack of little diet cokes and let each child put a mentos in it. Then for the grand finale, I did a big bottle of diet coke.

Myth: Pop rocks and soda will make your stomach explode
What we did: decorated cupcakes with pop rocks, ate them, and drank soda. I also explained a person would burp before their stomach exploded.

Things that would be awesome (if they actually worked as advertised)

1. Solar powered house with battery. I saw this article in the Provo Daily Herald. I would love to have a solar powered house, but solar cells are expensive and current batteries are a pain to use.
2. Scooba. I love Roomba; I wish the Scooba were equally awesome, then I would never have to mop my floors again.
3. Health care co-ops. I would love to have insurance that wasn't tied to my husband's current job. Traditionally, they change it right before one of my kids is born, and with #4 on the way, I'm waiting for the change. But a co-op where it was a not-for-profit insurance would be nice. I'm not sure I want the government running things, but a credit union version of insurance I could go for.
   

Watching mythtv on a windows laptop

I am finally watching my mythtv recordings on my windows laptop. I have been wanting to do this for a long time, but there were some problems, mostly the mythtv windows clients were in beta and since the switch to digital, they did not handle streaming hd well. The solution is MythWeb and streaming flash.

MythWeb is a web browser front for Mythtv. I had to install mythplugins using sudo apt-get install mythplugins , (I am running ubuntu intrepid ibex on the Mythtv box) then it pretty much installed itself. MythWeb will allow you to download the complete show as well, but I really had no desire to wait for 2 gigs of "Antiques Roadshow" on WiFi. Anyway, the latest version of MythWeb has an experimental flash converter that seems to work pretty well. It encodes the show to flash on the fly and you can watch it. It was a little jerky on occasion (not sure whose fault that it is), but it is very watchable. I've heard the flash encoder does not skip commercials, but since 90% of what I watch is PBS, it doesn't matter to me.

So now, I can relax and use my eee to watch my shows.

My bracelet

Here's the bracelet I've been so excited about. It's in the pandora / chamilla / trollbeads style, although none of the beads are from any of those companies. Anyway, I think it came out pretty well. Each of the silver beads represents one of my kids (and my husband). I have to admit I love the frog lapwork bead. He is just too funny. I've also discovered I like the murano style glass beads, especially the ones with flowers inside.